In Middle School, my best friend N. dumped me for boys. I still saw them as friends to play sports with, she saw them otherwise.
In High School, 5 of my friends stopped talking to me after they saw my modeling portfolio. (I can only guess this is the reason, since they never told me.)
In College, my friend I., the one I went to camp with every summer, and her friend, spent 2 hours making fun of me because I didn't like to party at school.
Also in college, my roommate stopped talking to me when she decided that she was no longer straight.
And recently, a friendship that was truly intoxicating, has come to an end. I fear we burned too bright for too long, and simply have nothing left.
My point? Friendships and relationships ebb and flow. The only constant in all your relationships is you.
I need to stop forgetting that part.
Thursday, May 28, 2009
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6 comments:
thanks for the beautiful post. in my junior year of high school i lost the only clic i was a part of. senior year i had a new close friend - we went out to wendy's for lunch every day.
in college i had some good friends through a business fraternity i was part of. i had a falling out with one of them and the rest just drifted away.
i went to a basketball game with that one friend last year, maybe 10 years since we last spoke.
zen buddhism likes to get into the idea of impermanence. everything is created, arises, falls, and is destroyed.
sadly I learned that a while back and not forgetting it has made it close to impossible for me to make new friends.
hugs
(((hugs))), there is always room for new friendships to emerge. C'mon over lady!
I love the fact that you're reaching out and being honest with your feelings. Friendships and relationships do come and go, grow hot, luke warm and cold at times. It's ok to mourn them, in fact it's as necessary as taking in and releasing a breath. Be yourself.
This is so true. What's tragic is if someone isn't friends with herself.
Facebook gives us a chance to get back in touch with some of those old friends. I'm sometimes surprised how little I have in common with some of my old friends. And blogging has allowed me to meet new friends I'd never have encountered otherwise.
It's interesting to watch my kids' friendships develop. Sometimes I feel like Jane Goodall.
Speaking of friendships, we should hang out soon! :)
my friendships with people seem to be always changing and evolving. Once "best friends" are now still friend, but not nearly as close, for varying reasons. I think it's kind of the natural progression, sadly, with some people...
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